It sounds like the dad is irresponsible and couldn't provide for your daughter anyways. Next time you see the dad, you might try talking about how much time and money it takes to raise a child. He may hear you and start to realize that raising a child is more hard work than he can handle. If the dad tries to take you to court, I hope the judge would consider that you provide the child love and stability, while the dad cannot really provide anything but uncertainty.

I agree. I think a judge would agree with your case.

I feel for you, really I do, we are going through basicially the same thing, granddaughter is going 3 yrs and Mom wants her, she was taken at birth and we have had her all this time. We don't want and are afraid for her to return home, she is such a tiny little thing. DHS says they can't terminate, and looks like she might go to her moms, I pray for others in the same boat, this isn't easy at all for all involved, especially the children. My heard goes out to you- from Oklahoma

Fight for the the child no matter what do not give up the courts like to see kids stable and safe

By law if he is clean and has been he mat just get his kids but it may be hard however he is the father and if he can take care of them the court may over rule good luck

4 years ago we adopted our daughter (then 7) and son (then 6 mo). They are siblings. 9 mo. ago we received a call from Human Services about their sibling (then 1 yr) who had just been removed from birth mom. She had another baby unbeknownst to us. The Judge ruled for reunification if mom made it through the drug programs with success. We have been fostering Nia for 8 mo. Mom has made it through the programs clean as a whistle, but unable to engage in positive parenting due to prescrip meds for bi-polar disorder. How can we fight this ruling from the judge. She is clean, but in no way does she understand the biz of parenting. Nia is tremendously attached now to her brother & sister and to us, her foster parents. We feel we must fight to the end for her best interest. The courts claim to do that - but it's not so. They're fighting for something else entirely. Please advise... Thank you

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I am sorry to break this to you, but if the judge ordered reunification, then that is what will take place.

You might see if the mother is amenable to you helping her care for her children while she is partially incapacitated due to her medication for bi-polar disorder. If the mother agrees, you still get to see and help raise the children you have come to love.

If the mother tells you no, you could take her to court and ask the judge to give you temporary joint physical custody of the children until the mother is physically fit to raise her kids herself. (I have seen this happen (granted at the time, the judge even said the case was extremely unusual so an unusual solution might work best) once before.

I urge you to seek the opinion and guidance of a local attorney with this matter.

I hope this helps.

@Earlsgurl: I hope everything worked out well for you!